I finished my last final of the semester at 1 o'clock today. I decided to be vulnerable and share a part of my last few months. I started writing journal entries during a dark time and though I wasn't super persistent in keeping up with them, I am so thankful that I did at the beginning.
So, here are a few glimpses:
October 21, 2015, DAY 1: To have a friend tell you they are
concerned about your mental health is one thing. We’ve all made the jokes (not
so funny now), about how college slowly destroys your overall well-being on a
daily basis. To sit across from a professional and have them tell you they are
concerned about your mental health is a different story. Today I was told that
I have moderately severe depression, moderately severe anxiety and that my overall
ability to function well, was low. That sucks. She said my numbers aligned with
what I had told her I was dealing with, so at least there was some needed
validation granted. So, how have I been feeling? Lousy. Angry. Unmotivated. But
most of all, I’ve been feeling alone. It has been an exhausting cycle of
isolating myself but then feeling lonely, of not wanting to go to class, but
then panicking when I think of my final grade, and of wanting to get better,
but not having the motivation to do so. Don’t get me started on how easily
irritated I am at people nowadays. Anger. Frustration. Loneliness. Cyclical. We
started discussing options. When I hear the word “medication” I tense up; it’s
the option she recommends. I express I’m leaning towards medication, but I’m
concerned about it. What are the concerns? Well, for one, there’s the “p word”:
pride. One of my best friends described it as accepting defeat. It was true. Then
I realized that one is stupid. A lot of people in my life take anti-depressants,
I see how it helps them and I genuinely am happy they are taking them. I should
allow myself to experience that same type of assistance and not feel ashamed. Also,
I’m anxious that the medication will make me feel worse before it makes me feel
better. And worse is a scary thought. We talked it out a little more, and my
appointment to talk with a doctor about a potential prescription is on Friday.
Today, I accepted defeat.
October 23, 2015, DAY 3: The doctor didn't like it when I
described taking medication as "accepting defeat." She preferred
the word "wisdom." She knew I was religious and I think she was too.
She used the analogy I had heard once about a guy standing on the roof of a
house during a flood. People came by on a boat and told him to get on. He
denied them and said he was waiting for God. Again, then a helicopter came by
and told him to get on and again, he denied. The guy ends up drowning and when
he got to Heaven he asked, "God, why didn't you rescue me?" God
replied and said, "I sent a boat and a helicopter. I tried to rescue
you!" The point of that analogy, is that I am trying to be helped right
now. I just need to accept it. I gave her the permission to write me a
prescription. So today, I'm not accepting defeat; I'm getting on the
boat.
October 24, 2015, DAY 4: I was supposed to start
my medication today. I didn't.
October 26, 2015, DAY 6: My freshman year of college, I
rarely went to bed before 3 a.m. That isn’t a joke. People said it would catch
up to me one day and it has. I’m not sure it did under the same circumstances,
though. I’m tired before I know it and my motivation runs out before I even
have time to feed it. So I make a list and nothing gets done off of it. I become
frustrated with myself because nothing did. Repeat. I think I need to stop
making lists but then I get stressed out and overwhelmed. Also, I did it. I
took my first anti-depressant today. I know it’s too soon to tell obviously,
but nothing magical has happened. Yet.
October 27, 2015, DAY 7: I am feeling really, really anxious
tonight. I don’t know if it’s the side effects of the medication already or
what, but I can’t focus. I can’t relax. Tomorrow is my GA shift at the
Missourian and like always, I’m dreading it.
*EXTREME FAST-FORWARD*